Fear is probably the most common emotional state that a person experiences. And it is quite natural - it helps us to avoid danger. Even not so: not to meet with danger. Often unclear because of fear we do not sit in an unreliable car , do not go down a dark alley and do not eat the suspect food.
But there are other kinds of fear - imposed by society and "public opinion". Very often they are difficult to enjoy a full life , and do not protect against possible problems. Incidentally, there are some fears that interfere with a healthy sex. It should be understood that we are talking about emotions on a subconscious level, that is, you like a partner, and you look forward intimacy, but something inside does not fully reveal. Just forget about this "something" is very difficult. But there is a way. And it begins with the definition of the problem.
"My appearance is far from ideal"
We seem to have started with the most common problems. Before sex, you turn out the light, trying to quickly slip under the covers and take a bath together agree only if it is full of fragrant foam. Explanation for this may be very different: "I untanned", "something today I have thick calves," "I do not like my thighs." They all say the same - you are sure what the problem is, but put up with it and try to ignore it, do not aspire to fight or even to analyze. And does it really have? Are your calves do not look like the models in the famous magazine? Is it true that a man so interested in your tan, do you think? And in general: do you really believe that he has the exact same views on the beauty that you have? Maybe he just thinks glossy models attractive enough?
Have you had a negative experience, and you do not want to repeat
Direct continuation of the previous paragraph. Your sex does not coincide with what is usually presented in the art as "a night full of passion."It is worth remembering that sex - it is primarily a physiological process. But everything else - and his only your actions, thoughts, and most importantly, attitude. Yes, a regular bed is somewhat different from the screen bed with white silk sheets, strewn with rose petals. But it so happens that it is not in unrealized expectations, and indeed problematic experience (especially if it was the first). It's all complicated: the problem can escalate into real complex with a variety of unpleasant consequences. If you think that you are afraid of intimacy and are not able to have fun with a man better address this issue and ask the practitioner neuropsychiatrist.
Hinders education
Alas, you can not choose exactly what you have to inspire the home, school, and possibly later. So now you believe that a man must take the initiative. What to take matters into your own hands can not, it looks vulgar. That quiet home sex - well and good, and everything that goes beyond - too! To be honest, now is the time to forget all this. Times and standards of behavior change rapidly, and the role of women in the sex for a long time is not the same that it was before. Believe me, what you dismiss unnecessary restrictions, your sex life will benefit.
Extraneous thoughts and fixing them
Obsessions are also called obsessive, and they absolutely have ever visited each. Say, an important event will take place in a week, and you think about it now. Reinterprets trivia again experiencing any weaknesses. And notice that you can not sleep well, you have no appetite, about sex can not be considered. Obsession can not just put aside, but it can be fought! Say, take yourself unusual physical exertion. There is an exercise bike? Excellent! Remove it on the balcony and take there . No time for sports? Also it does not matter: set a goal to master even trifling, but a trick: let it be shuffling cards or trick with a coin. Faced with an unfamiliar task, the brain obsession postpone the problem by the wayside, and you sigh freely.
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