Our common problem

Sometimes erectile dysfunction in men is not so much a separate problem, reflects how serious emotional problems or difficulties in relationships. Of course, if people love each other, for the sake of sharing the happiness they would be willing to go to great. And we should begin with the fact that recognize: 

a) there is a problem,

and 

b) it is estimated.

What happens when a family is faced with problems in bed? Partner men with erection disorders can blame him impotence itself. Assume that it is attractive enough to provoke desire, or experienced enough to excite. Or she thinks that she has on her man pressure and thus guilty of his difficulties. In other cases, women are fully shift the responsibility on men. Some believe that their husbands have extramarital affairs, others suspect in homosexual men, and others that their husbands simply do not like. Erectile dysfunction is also dangerous in that it could lead to the collapse of a very strong relationship, making partners suspiciousness , irritable and suspicious , even outside the bedroom. And legs that face problems do not grow out of the male physiology , and of banal inability to communicate with each other .

After the fiasco

What happens when both partners becomes obvious failure in bed - it's not a one-time flash in the pan, and unpleasant tendency, rather similar to the rule rather than the exception? Usually done partners , with varying degrees of success hiding annoyance and irritation, pretend that nothing happens. A subsequent quarrel (if she suddenly followed) write off the fatigue, bad weather and not just dumped garbage. And everyone has a reason "widely blind eye." For men with erection problems - has become a nightmare reality, which is to discuss (especially a woman) how to rub salt into the wound. The woman, in turn, afraid even hint on this topic, in order not to give a loved one too much discomfort. And this behavior is both - a road to nowhere. And to put it simply - the path to the parting.

Given the fact that erectile dysfunction is diagnosed in seventy percent of men after forty years, the problem takes a global social.

How can I help him?

This question is often asked by women. But, alas, he did not put quite right. Erection problems husband - wife is a problem not only indirectly, but also directly. Gynecologists know that the lack of regular sexual activity leads to a whole bouquet of female diseases. Sexual release is dedicated to "disperse" the blood inflow to the pelvic organs increases during arousal. In the absence of orgasm blood "stagnate" in the venous system of the pelvis. Over time due to chronic sexual dissatisfaction changing structure of the pelvic veins - they expand, lose its elasticity, is formed venous stasis. As a result of impaired function of the genital organs, and there are gynecological diseases: ovarian cancer, uterine fibroids, chronic pelvic pain (including during sexual intimacy).

The presence or absence of sexual activity depends on overall health. And it concerns not only men but also women. Therefore, if you do not consider options for treason (which somehow destroy the relationship), the question should not be " how can I help him? " And " How can we help YOU?".

Activity

Psychologists recommend, first, to treat this problem not as a problem of sexuality, but as a problem of physiology. Then agenda is perceived quite differently.

The second recommendation is to never start a conversation about the problem directly to bed.

Third, do not pretend that nothing happens . After all, both quite obvious that health is not okay.

Fourth: it is necessary to solve the problem as solved by any other family matter - repair, relocation or parsing diary Losers firstborn. That is to talk once or twice in the kitchen - not a solution. Need to clearly agree what to do, when and how.

Finally, both partners should be aware that in most cases of erectile dysfunction - no penalty. It is curable. Home installation: "We will cure her , because we - the family." And here's you are found really effective tool for solving problems of bed.