Conversations with friends about his problems

A romantic night with your loved passed away not go as planned. The reason is simple - "he could not." And that is especially unpleasant, it did not happen the first time. Should I tell her friends about such a sensitive issue for your man? On the one hand, this is a deeply personal, intimate question of only two. On the other - who else to ask for advice on how to perceive this problem?

Neither blockbuster series "Sex and the City" did not do without the next scene. Girlfriend sit at a table in a cafe or restaurant and talk, talk , talk ... Mostly about men. It's not quite the stereotype associated with feminine behavior: University of Massachusetts scientists say that more than 70% of women tell her friends all the details and secrets of living together with a partner. And do it without malice, and do not share specifically on the theme "private" and "public." Thus they not only find an excuse to talk about, but also seek advice, compare conditions of situations in which were themselves, and gain additional experience. Is there a place talk about intimate issues of your men? Sure.

First of all, it helps to understand yourself. Again and again, trying to comprehend the problem alone, you can "dig", unwittingly distort the facts, think through, to make wrong conclusions. 

Talking about the same situation conditionally outsiders, people often try to separate the facts from thinking "about", tries to speak impartially, simply listing the event. So you can, for example, to know when trouble began, perhaps, identify the alleged cause of their occurrence may discover some solutions.

Of course, medical diagnosis based on the results of conversation with friends not deliver. And treatment can not be selected. It's about developing a strategy of behavior in dealing with a partner and maintaining a favorable psychological climate in the pair. Needless to say, the conversation should be not only and not so much about his problems, how about your general temporary difficulties. Whatever kind was not the cause of erectile dysfunction is likely today you can find the key to the solution.

But share with friends their own fears, again, - this, of course, not yet a complete solution. It is rather to prepare the ground, "the balance of thoughts through" moral and discharge, which will help to prepare for two other important activities for couples.

The first of them - it's self-talk partner. Be sure to make it clear to the man that we are ready to solve the problem with him.

Just do not take the role of a teacher or a nurse - in a sticky situation excess pressure to anything. Here, rather, appropriate image understanding friend who will be there at the right time.

And, of course, you have to see a specialist together to get professional help. It's not just the moral support that you will render to the man, having gone to the doctor together. Often the causes of men's problems are rooted "in the commons" (eg, the psychological climate in the family). So that it can be and your visit to the doctor.