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"Honey, it's not scary, that you have now nothing happened! I also want you, not your erection ..." Usually in such situations excellent help tested drugs bought on this site. But in either case, men, on hearing this, usually want to go down the drain. But what can a woman do or say if fiasco has already happened, and lying beside a gloomy man before our eyes acquires syndrome expectations of failure?

Men talk like "did not work this time - get the next one, because I'm all right," not so much. Statistics on this subject, of course, is not conducted (it simply does not collect), but every psychologist knows his failures the stronger sex perceive particularly acute when they occur where the area of ​​responsibility of men traditionally considered recognized. It does not matter, it is about the content of the family on how to hammer a nail, apply a coat or a lady to be wealthy in bed. The only difference is that the latter, in contrast to the nail can cause progressive uncertainty of complexes and even breakdown. What is especially sad - on an empty or almost empty place.

This wave power ...

So it happened failure. You were not satisfied, it is near (watch slouched on the edge of the bed, ran to the kitchen to smoke). What to do? This question (of course, if a man is not an outsider) anyway ask himself any woman. Regardless of whether it is currently recognized as a problem exists or not. The answer to the question will probably find it too, and perhaps unconsciously! But it must manifest itself in her attitude and further reactions to this man.

Caught in this situation to begin with you should know that even men because of fear of failure alone often begin to avoid sex, and if "the worst" in his view was ...

Doctors call this syndrome suspense failure. It is manifested in the fact that man is worried, trying to control his erection, "force" yourself to be on top, but in the end leaves only worse. This is not so important that it led to this: nervous stress, which led to a "lockout" erection or premature ejaculation. With this, you may have to understand the doctor (or, if such an incident would not happen again to anyone and do not have). All this is usually - the result of too much excitement. Woman is best to show some initiative, while remaining as possible soft and sensitive. Psychologists, explaining that their patients are often advised to try to feel how painful fiasco happened wounded partner as hard hit his self-esteem, self-esteem.

It is best not to diverge in different corners, and at least some time to stay together in bed. Man, realizing that his lady does not require immediate sexual exploits and takes it for what it is, feel calm, and then - a rush of confidence and new forces. The main thing that all of your appearance and behavior demonstrated calm benevolence and no voltage. To no one felt guilty about what happened. No - so are you. Your Stress Now your man needs even less than his own.

By mutual satisfaction!

At least once in a lifetime sexual every man suffers fiasco. It is this idea a woman can bring home to their partner. (Only better not refer to a rich personal experience, and, say, you have read an article in the journal "Health".) Reasons for what happened, there may be many: stress at work, the accumulation of general fatigue and even a surplus of emotions during the previous sex.

Thanks man you should feel that regardless of its erection, it remains a desirable partner. Perhaps simple relaxation will lead him back to normal after a short time.

Sometimes it is enough just to start from the understanding that sex - it's always a mutual pleasure, and in any case not a sport, not a competition and not a race to break records. Harmony intimate life often lies in the conscious incentive factor is unchained, emancipation, which for further normalization of sexual relationship you should strongly encourage and strengthen.

If the debacle in bed repeated, this should be a "bell" about the problems with male sexual health. And if the woman will not only help to overcome his inner experiences, does not leave room for uncertainty, but also to convince to go see a specialist, there is no doubt that the partners are on track to harmonize their sexual relations.